At any given moment our lives can spiral out of control, resulting in a whirlwind of feelings and emotions which is then paired with the task of regaining our footing and making sense of where we are now in our new circumstances.
I find that when I am being pulled in many different directions in life, the “Me Time” I so desperately crave and need gets put on the back burner. What about you, what is your go to response when life hits the fan?
I’ve found through much trial and error that even when we think that one more thing won’t fit into our to-do list carving out some time to gift yourself some self-compassion actually creates more space and energy for you.
When you are in the midst of all life’s craziness, here are a few ways to gift yourself self compassion (and sanity).
1. When my thoughts are circling the drain, or whirl-pooling around my mind, once I become aware this is happening I (now) recognize that this is my inner critic talking and is stirring up my emotions. For me, the inner critic often asks the question, “What is wrong with you?” I’ve learned to answer and shift my thoughts by returning the question and asking, “What is right with me?”
This shifts the momentum of the negative energy of the thoughts and allows me to look at a positive aspect of myself.
What does your inner critic say to you? What phrases or questions can you develop to ask yourself when the critic shows up?
2. Recognize that you will have good days and bad days. If the bad days are outnumbering the good days right now, I like to write myself a note, somewhere I can see it to remind me of the fact that the good days are arriving! Everything in life is on a cycle, so even if it feels as though the bad days will not end, they will.
3. Having a creative outlet, like intuitive art journalling, brings you to the present moment. It also allows you to process your emotions in a way that is non- judgemental and doesn’t require you to verbalize your feelings. This is an important part because it allows you to release your emotions.
4. Understanding that you can really only control what you can actually control. Often when we feel unbalanced and out of whack we start trying to control as much as we can in our lives around us.
While this sounds logical, I’ve found that this has led me to try and control things I have no business trying to control. Things like other people and situation. Does this sound familiar? The best way I’ve found to regain your sense of control is to take a step back when the urge to control something arrives and ask “is this really mine to control?”
What we truly can control is our own thoughts, reactions (mostly) and next actions.
5. I’ve found that when I am kinder to my outer body, making sure that I am taking baths, going for walks in nature and eating well, I also start being kinder to my inner self.
Often us women put ourselves last, but when we take the time to nourish our outer selves, this not only helps our inner mind, but it creates a ripple effect so that our love for ourselves is spread to the others around us. Not sure? Give it a shot for two weeks and let me know what you discover!
6. Write yourself a permission slip to have self compassion for yourself. As odd as it sounds, a lot of our resistance can happen because internally we haven’t given ourselves permission!
This week I encourage you to write a short (or a long) list of ways you could incorporate more self compassion in your life.
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