Have you ever found yourself in a group or city where you felt you didn’t belong?
Or, have you had a time in your life where everything was filled with a sense of discontent? Maybe you feel this way now.
Happiness can seem so fickle, especially in times of stress and transition. Here are some tips to create ease in your life, allow yourself to flourish and thrive where you are right now.
Taking time to be grateful is the biggest catalyst for change. When you start being grateful for even the simplest things in your life, you will start bringing more joy into all that surrounds you.Taking time to be grateful is the biggest catalyst for change. Click To Tweet
How to do it:
Name one thing that irritates you the most. Maybe one of your kids is going through growing pains, or perhaps you adopted a dog who has more issues that you realised when you got him, or you are having a hard time communicating with a partner or boss!
Write down one thing you actually do like about that person, animal or situation. Think about how your irritation with the situation teaches you something about yourself. Are you learning to increase your patience, your awareness, or something new about yourself?
For myself, I adopted a challenging dog, who has anxiety and is under socialised. This frequently frustrates me because I need to plan out trips and visits to make sure his needs are met before mine. Because of this, I’ve had to let go of some of my immediate plans and dreams.
When I let him know that I am incredibly grateful for him, I become more relaxed. I’ve learned how to minimise his stress, and this, in turn, allows me to reflect on how I can relieve stress in my life.
2. Treat yourself. When was the last time you did something just for you?
A few ideas how to celebrate you:
Take a walk with a book and some chocolate and go to a park, a botanical garden, the beach, the forest or another spot that refreshes you. Breathe, eat chocolate (which is grounding) and relax — guilt free.
Book a massage appointment, take a painting class or a schedule a manicure/pedicure appointment and give yourself some pampering or healing time, just for you.
Are there things you have always wanted to do? Write a list on sticky notes, put them in a jar and when you have an hour or an afternoon, pull out a sticky note and do it!
When you take the time to care for yourself, your self-love will trickle through into all other areas of your life.
This is important, because when you start feeling even a tiny bit better, your confidence and how you think about yourself and your surroundings will start to shift for the better.
3. Find beauty that in your daily routine.
So many times habitually going through life becomes so ingrained that beauty passed by, completely unnoticed.
Next time you are on your way to the grocery store, to work or another errand, look for one thing that you find beautiful.
I did this every day for seven months, and this helped pull me out of a deep depression. This tip might sound simple but I found it to be extremely powerful.
Try this every day for a week and see how it shifts your awareness in relation to your surroundings.
Have you been in a place where you felt you didn’t belong? What do you do to regain your equilibrium and thrive right now? Let me know in the comments!